I don’t tend to watch a lot of news. We don’t have cable at home, and I’ve usually got 50 thousand different things to do with my time once I get home from work. So I’m frequently out of the loop on a lot of things.
So apparently George Lopez called Kirstie Alley a pig. If you’re fat, you get used to things like that. However, it does not mean that it’s acceptable.
I’ll never forget one day when I was living in Salt Lake City. I worked at the University of Utah, and was crossing the street to go from employee parking to my building. A car full of boys sped up and raced dangerously close to me as I was in the crosswalk, and hollered “fat bitch” at me out of their windows. What’s sad is that I was in a losing cycle at the time, and feeling comparatively cute. What’s sad is that they knew nothing about me beyond the fact that I weighed more than their apparently acceptable weight limits, and based on that decided that it was within their rights to publicly humiliate and shame me. What’s sad is that they showed themselves to be ugly and unkind people to someone who was predisposed to think they were probably fairly nice guys.
So I’m with Richard Simmons on this one. http://www.cnn.com/2011/OPINION/03/29/simmons.weight.jokes/index.html?hpt=C2#
I’m also really disgusted by a lot of the comments to Simmons’s commentary. Because I have control over what I put in my mouth and how much exercise I do, that gives others the right and privilege to make fun of me if I don’t meet their standards?
I’m not a big Kirstie Alley fan. I don’t care for her sense of humour, and haven’t enjoyed any of the shows I’ve watched her in. But I will proudly stand up next to her and proclaim her right to go through life without being mocked and tormented because of her weight. If it were easy for people to control weight, people wouldn’t be fat if they didn’t want to be, and there would be no smokers who were unsuccessful in their attempts to quit smoking if that were easy. I know how hard it is for me to cope with my own problems, and I hope I would be the last to accuse someone else for their difficulties and their problems.
I see that Lopez apologized, and I’m glad. I have as much of a sense of humour as anyone, but I don’t find pointing fingers at others pain amusing.
Even amongst fat people, there is plenty of blaming going on. If someone is fatter than you are, it can make you feel smugly superior. If someone was formerly fat but is losing, it can make you feel defensive. If you lose weight “the natural way,” solely with diet and exercise, you might feel superior to someone who had weight loss surgery.
There are so many people looking down on fat people, and it’s just sad. No one is a better person or a worse person solely by virtue of how much he/she weighs. (Or how tall or short he/she is, or whether he/she smokes, etc.) My point is, we’re all in this world together. It’d be nice if we spent as much time building people up as we do tearing them down.
I’m fat, I admit it, not that I could disguise it. I eat too much. I exercise too little. But I do eat much less than I did even four months ago; I weigh significantly less than I did four months ago; I exercise more than I did four months ago. I care about what I look like. I care about what kind of a person I am. And if you look at me and see nothing but my weight and decide, based on that sole factor, that I’m a bitch or am ugly or lazy or stupid, well, I feel sorry for you. But hey–don’t bother to share your opinion of me, because what you think of me is none of my business.